There is no such thing as an unwanted child. That’s what’s so wonderful about the adoption process in the United States. While it is unfortunate that many mothers are unable to keep and care for their children, there are many loving people who want nothing more than to care for a child and start a family through adoption.

Many questions arise when considering adoption, and it can seem overwhelming. But if you take it a step at a time, you’ll know if it’s the right decision for you. How does adoption work, you may wonder? What if I change my mind and decide I want to keep my baby? What if my baby eventually wants to find his birth mother? When is the right time to tell my child that he’s adopted?

First, giving up a child for adoption is not an easy decision to make. This means that a mother who isn’t ready or able to care for her baby has chosen to give this child a life that she could not otherwise provide. It is one of the most unselfish acts any mother could do for her child.

The decision to adopt is a permanent one and will have a tremendous impact on the child you take home. Take into consideration how it may impact any children you currently have, whether adopted or biological. How will this new child fit in with your family?

Foster children need forever homes, too. Would you consider adopting an older child? Often, these children tend to have special needs. Perhaps they’ve come from abusive backgrounds, or have mental, emotional, or physical disabilities. Adopting foster children is usually the most feasible option financially.

Once the decision has been made, and you’re ready to move forward, make sure you understand your state’s adoption laws and policies. Each state is different, and will dictate how the process works. Find a reputable agency that offers pre-adoption education, and other support services.

Do some networking. Adoptive parents need to find and connect with a birth mother if they’re choosing to adopt a newborn.

A birth mother placing her baby in adoptive care should expect to feel a sense of grief and loss. While the decision to place a baby up for adoption is noble, it is also a very painful one. Professional counseling is never a bad idea and will help her to deal better with the process.

It’s a symbiotic relationship. Everybody wins in the end — especially the child, and that's all that matters.